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Relationship Gaps And Unforeseen Consequences<\/h1>\n

By Sean O’Shea<\/h1>\n

What most folks don\u2019t get, is that everything with your dog is connected. Every allowance or permissive moment, opens the door for another, seemingly unrelated behavior. They don\u2019t realize that over-indulging your dog with love, freedom, and tons of unearned affection, creates perceptions about you that can lead to other issues. That everything you do or don\u2019t do is giving your dog information about who you are and how he should respond to you. That you\u2019re constantly dropping clues to your dog about what opportunities are available, as well as creating openings for instability.<\/p>\n

When your relationship with your dog is lopsided, unbalanced, and based far more on \u201clove\u201d and spoiling than it is rules and structure, you\u2019re going to have problems. (I think we all get that by now.) But the interesting part is that you never know how that information of permissiveness, allowance, and lack of accountability will show itself.<\/p>\n

You think the spoiling might lead to begging or barking at you, but instead it leads to resource guarding. You think that allowing the pulling on the walk might lead to barking at other dogs, but instead it leads to growling and snapping at guests in the house. You think allowing jumping, barking, and craziness in the house will just lead to bad manners, but instead it leads to separation anxiety.<\/p>\n

While the origins of these serious issues might seem dramatic and improbable, I can assure you we\u2019ve seen them all in action. We\u2019ve seen relationship gaps create what seem to be amazingly disconnected issues. The thing is, you don\u2019t get to choose how your behavior (or lack of) affects your dog\u2019s. You don\u2019t know what\u2019s going to come out the other end of a relationship that\u2019s short on leadership, rules, and accountability, and long on chaos and permissiveness.<\/p>\n

Oftentimes it makes clear sense. The behavior you think you\u2019re possibly creating (and are ok with) is what you get. But just as often it\u2019s not. Often the dog\u2019s individual psychological makeup and personality create an outcome you\u2019d think was totally unrelated. But what happens is, your dog\u2019s personal insecurities, temperament, genetics, and attitude become a giant mixer \u2013 a mixer that combines with what you add to it. You both add your parts, stir them up with daily life and repetition, and voila, you get some nasty behavior that SEEMS totally unrelated. But it\u2019s not.<\/p>\n

We see so many dogs with gigantic laundry lists of issues. From annoying stuff to super dangerous. And the funny thing is, our program almost never changes. But all these dogs, with all these different issues, using the same program, transform. Do we sometimes need specific protocols for specific issues? Of course. But by and large, a simple program of believable leadership, non-negotiable rules, dependable structure, and accountability for poor choices are what make 95% of the changes.<\/p>\n

Do you know how many resource guarders stop guarding once they experience a few rules totally unrelated to their guarding? Or how many territorial guys stop being territorial once believable leadership is in place? Or how many separation anxiety dogs relax and stop freaking out once they learn that structure, rules, and accountability are prioritized over freedom and affection?<\/p>\n

Leadership gaps, rule gaps, structure gaps, accountability gaps \u2013 accompanied by permissiveness, affection, and freedom are the perfect recipe to create all manner of dog behavior problems. The thing is, you never know which ones.<\/p>\n

Sean O’Shea
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